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It’s interesting what you don’t do when you have all the time in the world to do it.
Like I mentioned in the previous post, The Attorney spent the long holiday weekend with me and Granny.
This was new for us.
Somehow1 in four years, The Attorney and I have never spent four whole days together at once.
I’m not sure what I expected the weekend to be, but it was interesting to discover what it wasn’t.
Normally when we get together -usually for a few hours or, at best, the better part of a day – there has been a subtle undercurrent of urgency about our meetings. You know, do what we need to do because we only have “X” amount of time to do it.
It’s more relaxed when you know ”he’ll still be there in the morning.”
It took not having time constraints to make me realize it.
The weekend had a certain ease that, while it may not be clear at particular moments, was probably reflective of our relationship overall.
He went on his runs. I worked on my T-shirts designs.
Together we cooked, together we cleaned.
Together we read books in bed.
He read about Andrew Jackson. I read about Tina Fey.
He’d fall asleep long before me. I was awake long before him.
He was surprised to find I don’t drink coffee in the mornings.
I was surprised to find that he didn’t know that.
Together we walked in the rain.
Together we got drenched.
Together we toweled off.
Together we got off.
Together we did what we do best together.
Individually we did what we do best alone.
Whatever we did, together or alone, we did when it felt like the time to do it.
We both had comfort in knowing, “he’ll still be there in the morning.”
Which is how I think it will always be for us.
Even if the morning is a few days, or sometimes weeks, away.
Maybe that’s why morning is my favorite time of day.
{ fin }
- A combo of distance, work schedules, and caring for Granny. [↩]
Tony, there’s really nothing else for it. You guys have got to make a home together.
Even if it’s only just to put your relationship to the test.
You’re putting your life on hold. You’re putting your happiness on hold.
It’s a tough call. To choose between your duty to family and your duty to love.
But the choice has to be made.
Like I said, it’s a tough call.
I’ve said this in a number of prior comments, but it bears repeating:
You and the Attorney have a beautiful love story!
Here here to what Irisgirl said….
It is a beautiful love story and it makes my soul sing to read it.
Thank you Tony.
Always interesting to learn about two individuals negotiating a relationship.
You both bring fully formed personalities to the table and are joining them intelligently.
This is so encouraging.
I always told the kids to proofread and make a rough draft. Not that you all are kids, but. . . .
re the layout–that’s not why we’re here. Do what you feel works.
Why after four years have not spent a significant amount of time together? Why the sense of urgency?
Secret family 2.4 children or other boyfriend?
So many people will never understand what I call the “code of the mountains”. I can say this because my parents were born in rural Kentucky. My first job was in Whitesburg,ky. The nearest town was Bristol Kingsport Johnson City. Family first. Respect your elders. Do the right thing. Which you are!
Love the post Tony and I’m glad that the two of you were able to spend time together; even w/ Granny’s rules.
Forgive me if the story has been told, but how did you and The Attorney meet? And when did you realize he was The One? Please tell it (again?) for those of us who don’t know.
Your stories have a quiet serenity that infuses us with peaceful longing for more. I’m so glad you share them with the world.
“We both had comfort in knowing, ‘he’ll still be there in the morning.’” Reading your blog & feeling the urge to comment is always a bit like don’t touch something precious inappropriate!